Guardian parents are favorite punching bags. That's in part because there are so many of them, so they are more likely to be your parent or your mate's or best friend's parent. Also, Guardians have a tendency to believe that they are right, which no...
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My grandparents are guardians, big time. They are always saying that everything is because I'm young. I don't know what I'm saying because I'm young. I'm wrong because I'm young. And I don't really believe what I believe because I'm young, I'll believe what they believe when I'm older. And now that I'm getting ready to graduate high school and go to college, they are trying to coax me into a career that they think is socially respected and highly paid for like the medical or accounting field (they own their own accounting company). I used to fight it all of the time by not doing school work, or getting into art like hobbies such as drawing and cooking; it always earned a "I hope you don't want to be a cook when you're older, they don't make much money." and my mom being an idealist goes "I think Kayla would make a great cook, she's good at it and has the brain to do whatever she wants." It's kind of something I have to keep my mouth shut about "adult topics" that is. But now, I'm 18. I had dinner with my grandma last night and told her I wanted to be a neuro-psychologist with a private practice on the side. She sat for a bit and just said " Well Kayla, you have the mind for it...why not try medicine though?" and I just said "Grandma, psychology is a high paying field that women dominate and I find the subject fascinating." After that, she was all for it. She even gave me one hundred dollars in my birthday card!
LalaChan May 8, 2008
Good job Lala! Half the battle of communicating with Guardians is learning how to say things in language which they understand and which is meaningful to them.
LisaFairhurst May 9, 2008
Ya, the hard part though is having to tiptoe around your own words so they don't trip you up. But once you get going, it's oh so easy.
LalaChan May 9, 2008
My mother is a provider guardian. I had forgotten about the "self-righteous" part before you mentioned it in the article. It was really difficult having a guardian parent but when I got older and had long moved away I realized how lucky I was.
leonbodevin May 12, 2008
Ask Dr. Lovegood
