Everybody in a long term relationship wonders at some point if they are in the right relationship. They wonder if they might be happier with someone else. Many times a good part of this wondering is subconscious. People aren’t even really aware that they are questioning the relationship. There are two things that cause most infidelity (not including constant infidelity of people unable or unwilling to make a sexual commitment). Those two things are needs not being met and conscio…

The wall between Rationals and others is their view of others’ stupidity and incompetence. If a Rational believes that another person is being illogical, irrational, or just plain stupid, they will not respond positively to anything they have to say. The fastest way to get a Rational to stop communicating meaningfully is to say that they are incompetent or idiotic or to start behaving or talking in a mindless crazy manner. Overall, Rationals are reasonable and reasoning people…

Dear Dr. Lovegood, I’m a Rational Mastermind (INTJ). I’d like to find someone special, but women seemed turned off. I don’t know why since I’m reasonably attractive. I know what I’m looking for in a woman, but all the women I know seem so shallow. Are there any truly intelligent women out there who wouldn’t be turned off? Dear Mastermind, One problem may be that you have mannerisms that make people uncomfortable, perhaps a different way of …

The wall between Idealists and others is the Idealist’s values. The values which are critical vary from Idealist to Idealist. It is essential to find out what their core values are and either work with them or around them if possible. Taking an Idealist head-on on one of their most cherished values is a fast way to a pointless argument, not to mention stupid. Overall, Idealists tend to be warm, accepting, compassionate, and kind. They want to get along with everyone and accept…