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By DrLovegood on 03-20-2008
All people want respect, but men seem to crave it more than women. All people want love, but women tend to find it more critical than men. For there to be a successful relationship, both partners need to give each other respect and love. In this article and the next one, I’m going to look at showing respect to men and love to women. However, women want to be respected for the same things their male counterparts want respect for, and men want to be shown love in some of the same ways their female counterparts do. So both articles are useful for showing love and respect to both sexes. .jpg)
Generally speaking, men want to be seen as providers and protectors. They want to be seen as taking good care of their families and as strong and able to protect their families from any evil. However, they focus on different areas depending upon their temperaments. This is a guide to offering respect in a way which is meaningful to your partner.
Guardian men hope to be respected for:
- Providing for their families on a financial level as well as fixing things and arranging for maintenance to keep things working
- Prudent planning for housing, career, investments, and retirement
- Being a valued member of a religious group, club, or social organization
- Remembering important days
- Keeping things organized and running smoothly
- Protecting their partners and children from evil company and influences
Artisan men need to be respected for:
- Providing romantic gestures, fancy gifts, and dinners together
- Their bodies – how they’ve made well-toned physical machines of themselves
- Their prowess in sports, strength, and, most importantly, the bedroom
- Courage and bravery with the long shot that paid off
- Their ability and willingness to adapt to almost any need or circumstance
- Protecting their families in the face of evil people and circumstances
Rational men want to be respected for:
- Providing freedom and treating their mates as rational adults
- Their expertise in their field(s) of interest
- Their ability to see long-term implications others can’t and to respond to avoid negative consequences
- Their ability to deal with things in a logical, rational manner without being swayed by inappropriate emotion
- Their deep thinking and ability to analyze things from all angles
- Protecting their families from evil systems of thought
Idealist men value being respected for:
- Providing a safe emotional environment for their families
- Their passion and compassion
- Their insights into others’ behavior and thinking
- Spending time with their families to maintain everyone’s positive attachment to everyone else
- Having a clear view of who they are, their purpose in life, and their progress towards fulfilling that purpose
- Protecting their families from evil spiritual influences
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Posted by emanresu on Mar 21, 2008
I'm sorry... but there's a typo... it's 'well-toned', not 'well-phoned'. ;) As an Idealist and even moreso being a Champion, I must say I love to be recognized as a 'listening ear' and a 'shoulder to cry on'. When people come to me as a 'surface level' friend, but don't go deeper with their issues, it feels a little bit like a rejection whether or not it was intended to be. So, along the lines of "insights into others' behavior and thinking", I can say that I feel respected when people tell me personal things and trust me as a person that can support them. As for the article in general, I can totally understand how this works. It's cool. I mean, I imagine that this stuff would be applicable for friendships as well as romantic relationships. I have a Rational friend and I totally respect him for being able to think so logically. My dad is a Guardian and my Idealist-ness can sometimes conflict with his Guardian-ness, but I have great respect for his ability to organize events which are attended by hundreds of people. I mean, there is certainly a level of love that goes into any relationship, so it's helpful to know the best way to express it. |
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Posted by DrLovegood on Mar 22, 2008
"nadnerB" -- thanks for the correction and feedback. Much appreciated! .......................... Pat -- Rationals of both sexes tend to find respect more important than most others do. As I wrote, ALL people want respect. Personally, I can't think of any woman of any type who wants to be known as the dear little woman who... |
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Posted by Yotsuya on Mar 28, 2008
I'll take love over respect any day. |
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Posted by LalaChan on Apr 29, 2008
most idealists would...I like a lovely combination of the the two..maybe the J in me says that. And wow! a lot of enfp's on here. |
I'm a woman and I wanted to be respected for being an intelligent person and a rational thinker rather than just the dear little woman who (insert stereotypes here) - and I'm in no way a man.