All Love Blogs
Fair Fighting Series Introduction
Disagreements and even fights are a virtually inevitable part of all romantic relationships. Sometimes during the initial flush of love, couples don’t fight and practically don’t even disagree. This can’t last. Even if two people are the same personality type, they see things differently. A good part of a relationship operates kind of like our eyes. Each eye can work independently, but eyes work better when they work together. When the eyes do work together, …
The Parent Series
The parent-child relationship is the one where the tensions between different personalities can be most clearly seen. When we make friends or choose a partner, we are developing a relationship between equals. The parent-child relationship is hierarchical, with much more clearly defined roles for each. You can break up with friends or lovers, but you generally can’t divorce your parents or your children. Because parents and children are stuck with each other, the battles can be devasta…
Care and Feeding Of a Mate Series
Romance tends to start off with a bang. We’ve got all kinds of love hormones coursing through our veins which create one of the biggest highs possible. These hormones last for about one year (or less). After that, the romance is generally over unless the two people have been building a relationship. Romance is easy, but relationship is hard. Even though he/she seemed perfect (or close enough) at the beginning, you eventually discover that your partner has a number of flaws which are ...
We’ve Lost that Lovin’ Feelin’
More songs and possibly more poems have been written about love than any other topic. Happy-in-love songs are usually pretty sappy while crossed-in-love songs tend to seem more substantial and true to life. Here are some tips to help you become or continue to be happily, sappily in love. As I wrote last week, many of these tips will work equally well for men of the same temperament. How Guardian women want to be shown love: Guardians generally work very hard t…
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
All people want respect, but men seem to crave it more than women. All people want love, but women tend to find it more critical than men. For there to be a successful relationship, both partners need to give each other respect and love. In this article and the next one, I’m going to look at showing respect to men and love to women. However, women want to be respected for the same things their male counterparts want respect for, and men want to be shown love in some of the same ways t…
Complementary Pairings - Artisans/Guardians
Last week we looked at Rationals with Idealists. This week we’ll look at the other complementary pairing, Guardians with Artisans. Guardians and Artisans both live in the real world. They pay attention to what is happening and respond accordingly. They’re more like to look for solutions to problems in what they do rather than how they think. Both like to engage in physical activities. Guardians engage in physical activities more for the common good, and Artisans do it more for t…
Complementary Pairings – Rational/Idealist
The most common type of pairing is the complementary type. Rationals and Idealists complement each other as do Guardians and Artisans. We’ll look first at Rationals with Idealists and then Guardians with Artisans next week. Rationals and Idealists both live in the world of what might be. They’re more likely to look for solutions to problems in how they think rather than what they do. Both are likely to enjoy long conversations about ideas, although Rationals prefer logical ideas…
Birds of a Feather
When people first learn about personality types, they are apt to think that it would be good to find someone else within the same subgroup who is not exactly the same. For example, it’s very common to hear Idealists say that the only way to have a good relationship is to find another Idealist. That way both partners will have similar but not identical ways of looking at the world and will have the same kinds of ideas about how relationships work. Different temperaments are lo…
Marrying the Mirror
There are a lot of advantages to having a partner who is the same type you are. You have an instinctive understanding of each other’s thinking and ways of doing things. You are likely to have similar priorities. If you also share the same values, you are likely to get along uncommonly well. This kind of relationship is generally as easy to slip into as bath water, unlike the brisk awakening which comes from a relationship of opposites. The difficulties come in several areas. One …
Do Opposites Attract or Attack?
Any type can have a successful romantic relationship with any other type. Any pairing will have difficulties, and type makes it easy to predict problems each pairing will face. We’ll be looking at a number of different pairings which can occur along with the advantages and disadvantages of each. A successful romance depends more on non-type-based factors, such as maturity levels, goals, values, culture, religious beliefs and similar issues that it depends on the types of the people in…
MY FUNNY VALENTINE
Sit up and take notice if you are the type to end up in the dog house because you failed to notice that the entire world is radiating hearts and kisses. Valentine’s Day causes a lot of anxiety as people try to figure out what to do for their valentines. Here are some ideas to not only keep you out of the dog house but to make your valentine happy and sure that he/she has the best valentine ever. Almost any of these ideas can be used successfully on a person of any temperament, but I&r…
A Temperamental Approach to Love
Most people spend a lot of time and energy looking for that special mate. Can temperament help you find the right person for you? Is there a way to use type to help you quickly rule someone in or out? Knowing about personality types can help you find and make connections with potentially suitable mates. Here are some tips. 1) Most people find themselves attracted to the same types over and over. As long as this is a healthy attraction (as opposed to being constantly attracted to, s…
First Date
There are a lot of guides to dating out there, but few based on temperament. These hints can help you make the kind of impression you’d like to make on your first date. Hopefully you have a pretty good idea of your date’s temperament. With that in mind, here are some tips. If your date is an Artisan: DO relax and go with the flow ask for stories about risks that paid off, sports, or any other exciting events feel free to engage in s…
Women and Romance Series - INDEX
Men and Romance Series - INDEX
Brad and Angelina: Constant Change Keeps Artisans Together
Hollywood is known for its spectacular love stories and equally showy break ups. Does personality have anything to do with fireworks affairs? Quite a bit. The affair between Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie has been one of the most shocking and splashy affairs lately. Brad leaves what appears to be a perfect marriage to live with his co-star and then they add children like kids are going out of style. What's going on? Brad is not a black and white, follow the rules sort of guy. …
Posted by DrLovegood on Monday December 24, 2007 6:27 PM
Four Ways to Leave Your Lover
You believe the relationship is over, finished, kaput. Now how do you tell your partner? Part of the answer depends on your partner’s temperament. You don’t need to be coy, Roy If your partner is a Rational, they may not even see this coming. Rationals are well known for completely missing hints, suggestions, and even outright statements of dissatisfaction. You will need to be very direct. Keep in mind that this may be the first time your partner has heard you, and…
Posted by DrLovegood on Monday November 12, 2007 9:44 PM
